Sunday, November 14, 2010

I don't need more crazy in my life

Last night DH and I had a conversation that went something like this:  

DH: Wouldn't it be cool to live near our old neighbors?

Me: Hmmm, not really, no. I realize you and the guy neighbor have become good friends but I'm not really friends with his wife anymore, I just didn't need more crazy in my life.

DH: Right, guy neighbor did mention that the reason I got the baby email is because you deleted his wife as a Facebook friend...

Me: They are having another baby?!?!?!?

DH (looking at his phone for the email): Uh, yeah it says another boy due in April.

Me: Geez, due right around the first boy, cause he was born in May.

DH: How do you remember things like that?

Me: Well, he was born on Mother's Day so that is kinda easy to remember...

DH: Again, how do you remember things like that?

Me: *shrug* 

I don't know how I remember things like that, maybe if I could forget those things my brain would have more room to, you know, be better at other things but whatever.  Still, the conversation haunted me late into the night as I took care of our dog (recovering from surgery earlier this week) and DH lay asleep... Why did I delete her from Facebook?  Why did I just stop emailing, calling and getting together with her?  It seems from the comment her husband made to DH that she was upset and hurt that I deleted her, not really my intention to cause that but I should have just hidden her from my newsfeed or something along those lines, right? If I could go back I would most likely do that, not because I want her in my life but because believe it or not I actually don't like to hurt people's feelings if I can avoid it.

So, I know you are wondering what kind of crazy she was that I no longer wanted to deal with it, here it is (and this is just my opinion, you don't have to agree):

-Doesn't like any vegetables of any kind, especially not asparagus (Are you kidding me? Asparagus is in my top 5 list of veggies), but I guess not so crazy...

-Did not want to get her 1st born vaccinated because Jenny McCarthy has a point and she must know what she is talking about since she has an autistic child, hello???

-Did not like leaving 1st born with his dad, because really only she knew how to properly care for him, hmmm...

-Could not find a daycare nor a nanny good enough for her 1st born, so instead of returning back to a relatively good job, (which she worked really hard for and sacrificed so much to get a degree and then get the job) she quit, loosing awesome state-paid insurance for their family in the process

-Because her husband's business was already struggling and they needed her job to make ends meet, they had to file for foreclosure and husband now works 18 hour days while she stays at home, something they really can't afford (and now another baby on the way?!?!?) 

-The first and only time I visited after they had 1st born she told me she didn't want me holding the baby because she could tell how much I wanted one of my own and it made her uncomfortable (yeah, not really hooked on the idea of one of my own, not then, not now), but then: sent me monthly picture updates of said 1st born

And this is just crazy after the baby was born, not even getting started on the pre-baby crazy... Justified? Maybe not, but definitely not something I wanted to deal with on an ongoing basis and yet still feel guilty about hurting her feelings... *sigh*.